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WienDaphne, I´m sorry, that you sound so unhappy. :hug:
For me, going out into nature was always a big helper. Thinking of this former way of getting good and deep breathes of fresh air reminded me, that I haven´t done it in quite some time...
I wish you all the best!
Gaby 
Bears by EdieNow someone needs to tell me how I quit carrying around the weight of the burdens of others. My mom is dealing with a lot right now and I feel for her. My neighbor's mother just had a stroke while visiting from florida and is now in a nursing home here. My neighbor is beside herself and I carry that weight too. Never mind my dad (we go back to Boston on Friday for more test for new debilitating pains - he's finally verbally admitted his time is short and it's really bringing him down) and my grandmother (we won't get into that!) and hubs who is over stressed and not well from his job that he can't seem to get out of. I carry all of this with me 24/7 and I know it's of little use and not doing me any good. But it's what I'm surrounded by... what am I supposed to do? I sit and sew and THINK... too much!!!
Daphne, That is a lot for anyone to cope with all at once for sure! Sounds to me like you need some escapism - like a trip to Disneyland would be ideal, a day or two of putting life on hold and not thinking about anything else but having pure childlike fun! Since that is likely not realistic what about getting lost in a great book for a while - a fun one, not an educational one, or if you aren't a reader, watching a totally absorbing fun movie. Anything that would completely take your mind off everything for a while and leave you refreshed to face life again later and it might seem easier to cope with.
Sending HUGE hugz to you Daphne!!!! I also used to "take on" everyone else's troubles... until my doctor put me on some very helpful meds too. It's amazing what a difference it can make if you need it. I feel like a normal person again... (after 20 years!)didn't realize I "wasn't" till I was on the meds a month.
It appears that my body just was not creating enough seratonin or I was not able to use it properly... it's a medical issue. No one says any bad things about you if you take thyroid medication if your thyroid is not working. Should be the same thing when it comes to things like this!
..... Tom Cruise would surely come down hard on my choice of coping,.....
Ya know I used to be such a huge Tom Cruise fan.... but NOT after his stupid comment about the mental health field.... he is really stupid! And it truly pains me to say that cause he was such a hottie :crackup:
Chaska, MinnesotaDaphne: How do you cope? Well, there comes a time when you have to let go Daphne. All the things that are worrying you are things you can't control. What a horrible place to be when you can't control the very things that worry you. Life is not easy...Your mom, dad, friends husband....name one that you have control over? None. You DO have control over "YOU". You Do have control how you resond to situations. You DO have control over your choices in your life.
People make choices in life that may not be wise but you can't control that Daphne....You can't....Say it three time ("I can't control other peoples choices or situations in thier live's")....Say it three more times....say it everytime you start to worry....
Be supportive though, but know that by drowing in your sorrow and grief it is paralyzing and you can help anybody, not even yourself.
I hope the best for you Daphne
Michelle
Back Road BearsThank you, Michelle.
I have tried to take a bit of advice from most all of you this week.
I've done things JUST FOR ME!
I've gone shopping with a friend.
I've stayed away from my Grandmother (not to be cruel but I needed a break - and it's worked - I was able to visit her today, have a happy or at least tolerable time and leave feeling unstressed.)
I've jumped head first into making a bear this week which keeps me focused and obsessed with finishing it so I'm not thinking about other 'stuff' all the time.
I've watched a movie and cried.
I sat on the deck in the sun and read for two hours the other day.
I guess what I'm saying is that I'm trying to do things for ME and I'm trying to take a step BACK from all the stuff that is stressing me out.
How is that going?
Great! I'm getting things done that I've had hanging over my head... that feels so good!
I'm not sitting here worrying about EVERYTHING and that feels good too!
Tomorrow I have to take Dad back to Boston for more tests and doctor's appointments to determine where the new pain that's keeping him from walking is coming from. So, we'll see how I'm doing by the end of the day tomorrow!
Thanks, everyone, for your advice and encouragement and firm but loving finger waggling at me! I needed that! :)
:hug:
Chaska, Minnesotao.k. Daphne: tomorrow is a big day for you and your dad. You are on the right track staying positive. Know you can't control the outcome of the tests but you can be there for him. Bring something fun to do...bear making comes to mind....best of luck and I hope all works out....
Michelle
